How to Start Homeschooling: Your Complete Guide to Beginning the Journey
Start Your Homeschooling Journey
(without losing your mind!)
From uncertainty to confidence - preserving your sanity AND your child's future.
Welcome!
Whether you're planning a great escape from traditional school or starting this adventure with a tiny human who's never seen the inside of a classroom, you're EXACTLY where you need to be!
Starting this journey doesn't have to feel overwhelming. Trust that feeling in your gut - it's leading you exactly where you need to go!
You've already got everything you need to start this journey - curiosity, love for your children, and the courage to try something different. The rest? We'll figure out together, one gloriously courageous day at a time.
The Legal Stuff
(don't skip this part!)
Each state has its own homeschooling rules - some are quite flexible while others have more requirements. Understanding your state's laws is an essential first step before you begin your journey.
Key information covered:
Age requirements (when the government requires documentation)
Notification requirements (how to say "thanks but no thanks" officially)
Required subjects (the non-negotiables every state wants)
Record-keeping requirements (what to save besides adorable artwork)
Evaluation methods (how they ensure that learning is happening)
Choose Your Path
Path 1: Withdrawal
Breaking Up With School
Ready to make this thing official? The withdrawal process varies by state, but generally follows these steps (no, ghosting the school isn't an option - I checked)
Step-by-step guide:
Research your state's withdrawal rules (different states have different requirements)
Write your notice of intent (officially notifying the school - template below!)
Submit everything according to state requirements (following directions reduces complications)
Keep ALL records of what you sent and when (future you will thank present you)
Start your homeschool journey according to your state's timeline (confetti highly recommended!)
Optional: The Deschooling Checklist
After parting ways with traditional school, your child needs time to transition to a new structure. This 'deschooling' period might look like laziness to your mother-in-law, but it's actually crucial for success!
The Deschooling Checklist:
Week 1-2: Decompression & Rest (aka sleeping in and pajama days)
Week 3-4: Rediscovering Interests (finding what lights them up again)
Week 5-8: Rebuilding Confidence (healing from those "you're not good at math" moments)
Week 9-12: Gradual Introduction of Your Homeschool Structure
Path 2: Starting Fresh
Setting Up Your Homeschool
Starting homeschooling with a little one gives you this amazing opportunity to nurture their natural curiosity from day one! It's like getting to plant a garden in rich soil. Here's how to create a learning environment that sparks joy (and nope, you don't need to transform your home into a Pinterest-perfect classroom):
Step-by-step guide:
Complete any required state paperwork (if applicable to your child's age)
Create a simple learning environment (think "cozy" not "sterile classroom")
Gather basic resources that spark curiosity (and won't break the bank)
Establish flexible rhythms that don't make everyone hate mornings
Find your homeschool tribe (because you WILL need other adults to talk to)
Follow your child's natural interests (they're literally designed to learn!)
Your First Learning Adventures
The First 30 Days: Where You’ll Question Everything (that’s normal!)
Your first month sets the tone for your entire journey together. Focus on connection, playful learning, and finding a flow that doesn't make anyone cry. Yes, that includes you!
The First 30 Days Checklist:
Week 1: Deschooling and Exploring Together (following rabbit holes of curiosity)
Week 2: Introducing Simple Learning Rhythms (not schedules - big difference!)
Week 3: Expanding Your Learning World (because learning happens EVERYWHERE)
Week 4: Reflecting and Tweaking (because perfect plans never survive contact with actual children)
Common Misconceptions
Myths vs. Reality: What Everyone (Including Your Well-Meaning Mom) Gets Wrong
Addressing myths:
"I need teaching credentials" (not typically required - just patience and willingness to learn)
"I have to recreate school at home" (please don't - that's what we're escaping!)
"I need a full curriculum right away" (rushing into curriculum is like getting married on the first date)
"Homeschooling is isolating" (most homeschoolers have rich social lives)
My child won't be prepared for the future" (homeschoolers actually develop adaptability and self-directed learning - exactly what future employers want!)
Your Next Steps
Ready for More? (Of Course You Are!)
Whether you've staged a great school escape or started fresh, this homeschooling journey is just getting good! Now it's time to dive deeper into creating learning experiences that honor your child's wiring while building skills they'll need for their unique future path.
FAQs: Questions You're Probably Asking Yourself at 2AM
Starting Fresh FAQs
When do I need to officially start?
Most states don't require any formal homeschooling notification until your child reaches "compulsory attendance age" - typically 5-7 years old, depending on your state.
Before that, you're just a parent doing enriching activities with your child! Check your specific state requirements to know exactly when you need to make it official.
How do I know if we're on track?
State standards are publicly available online. They’re usually organized by grade level and subject.
Alternatively, instead of comparing to arbitrary grade-level expectations, observe your child's growth in curiosity, problem-solving, communication, and confidence. Document their questions, projects, and discoveries in a simple journal or photo collection. This creates a beautiful record of progress that means far more than worksheet completion. Trust the natural learning process!
Withdrawing From School FAQs
How long does the withdrawal process typically take?
Most states process withdrawals within 1-2 weeks, but some can take up to 30 days. The good news? Once you submit your paperwork properly, you can usually start homeschooling while waiting for the official confirmation. Just keep copies of EVERYTHING you submit (screenshots, delivery confirmations, the works!).
How do I help my kid adjust?
Start by validating their feelings (yes, even the dramatic ones). Create a judgment-free zone for discussing what they miss AND what they don't. Maintain connections while gradually introducing them to homeschool activities and groups. Most importantly: give them lots of control over their new learning journey - ownership breeds enthusiasm!
How do I handle the dreaded socialization question?
Keep a sense of humor and a ready response: "Actually, homeschooling gives my kids more time for real-world social experiences with people of all ages, not just same-age peers!" Then mention a few specific examples: co-ops, clubs, classes, community service, or neighborhood friends. The proof is in your confident, articulate children - who will likely charm the questioner if they're present!
How structured should our days be?
Many young children thrive on rhythm rather than rigid schedules. Think predictable patterns (like always reading after lunch) rather than "math from 9:00-9:45."
Follow their natural energy flows: mornings for focused learning, afternoons for exploration and play. A flexible routine provides security without squashing curiosity. Start with just 1-2 consistent elements and build from there!
How do I find other homeschooling families?
Start local: Facebook groups for your area's homeschoolers, library programs, parks at popular "school hours," homeschool co-ops, and community classes.
Don't be shy - when you see potential homeschoolers in the wild (at the museum at 11am on Tuesday?), introduce yourself! Most homeschool families are delighted to welcome newbies and share their favorite resources.
How structured should our days be?
Many young children thrive on rhythm rather than rigid schedules. Think predictable patterns (like always reading after lunch) rather than "math from 9:00-9:45." Follow their natural energy flows—mornings for focused learning, afternoons for exploration and play. A flexible routine provides security without squashing curiosity. Start with just 1-2 consistent elements and build from there!
What if the school gives me pushback?
Schools sometimes resist because they lose funding when students leave, it's not personal! Know your state laws (bookmark your state's homeschool association website), communicate in writing, and be politely persistent. If they continue giving you trouble, reach out to your state homeschool association for backup. They've seen it all before!
General FAQs
What records should I keep?
Even in relaxed states, maintain: attendance records (simple calendar notations work), a general outline of what you cover, samples of projects/work (photos are perfect), and a reading log. Resource receipts and membership/class records are helpful too. Create a simple system—a digital folder or physical box—that takes minutes, not hours, to maintain. Your future self will thank you!
What resources do I really need?
Start minimal! Good books, basic art supplies, building materials, natural items for counting/sorting, and access to the outdoors will take you surprisingly far.
Skip the expensive curriculum packages for now. The library (your new best friend) and free printables will provide more than enough. Your most valuable resource is your attention and conversation—seriously!
How long should we deschool?
The rule of thumb is one month for every year your child was in traditional school, but every kid is different. Watch for signs they're rediscovering their curiosity and love of learning—that's when you'll know they're ready for more structure. Some kids need 2 months, others need a full year. Trust the process!
How do I balance homeschooling with work/life/sanity?
First, adjust expectations—homeschooling doesn't require 6+ hours daily like traditional school. Many families accomplish academics in just 1-3 hours, leaving plenty of time for life. Involve kids in household management (life skills are education too!), batch-prepare materials when you have energy, and find your homeschool community for support and occasional childcare swaps. Remember: self-care isn't selfish, it's essential for sustainable homeschooling!